bogleech:

autism-fucking-rocks:

If you’re ever asking an autistic person to do something, be sure to explain why you want them to do it.

When I was a kid, I always kept the windows open when it rained. I saw no reason to close them even though my mom kept asking me to. She never gave a reason, so I never listened. She’d say it let the rain in and I’d think “no shit” and continue to keep them open. Eventually, she explained that it could cause mold. That made sense to me, so I started closing the windows. Simple as that.

When we first got cats, they kept jumping onto the counters. Once again, I saw no issue with this. My mom kept chasing them down and I couldn’t figure out why. She’d get annoyed whenever I let them stay up there. Once she told me that it was unsanitary, I thought that made sense so I stopped letting them stay on the counter.

To an outsider (and probably to my mom at the time) it may have seemed like I didn’t understand the instructions or was being intentionally difficult. But I can’t just follow an order without a reason. I must decide for myself if the order makes sense before I follow it, and I need the logic behind it to do that.

So if you’re asking an autistic person to do something, explain why it needs to be done. It’s very hard for a lot of us to override that part of our brains.

Not to detract from this being about autism but this is something everyone always should have practiced all the time with everybody. “Because I said so” isn’t a valid reason to listen to anyone; not a parent, not a partner, not a boss or a cop or a whole government.

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Anonymous asked:

I recently came out to my mother's side of the family who are majority conservative christians and it went much better than I expected. Like, they were weirdly supportive. I only got one comment insinuating that I might possibly be going to hell but it came from my aunt and she's dying soon anyway so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. Anyway, I'm telling them how shocked I am and that I honestly thought that they'd have more of a problem with it when my grandma is like "Well you know we've been through this before with your uncle Nicky" and I'm like "what" and so it turns out that my uncle Nick was born a Natalie, came out as a boy at 19, and my great grandma proceeded to pay for his top surgery and hormone therapy. In 1974. And I just had to process for a bit because my entire life no one has referred to him as anything other than he/him and his chosen name. I ask why no one ever thought to mention this and they're just like "tbh we forgot. It's been so long that he's been a man" This man is married. He has a wife and three kids. I ask my relatives how they went about having kids, whether through adoption or sperm donor or what and none of them know. Apparently he just told everyone that they were gonna be parents and then one day showed up at my grandma's house with a baby. No questions were asked. Just. He and his wife had a baby now and that was that. Three times. Weeks later when I finally talk to my aunt Sarah (Nick's wife) all she tells me is that neither of them have ever been pregnant and, I quote, "sometimes you just come into children". She phrased it like people use the phrase "come into money". Like children are something that just happens to you. I ask my relatives if any of them had a problem with Nick being trans at the time, saying I'd understand if they had negative feelings about it, as it was the 1970s after all. They were like "nope" and i was just like "you didn't think anything of it?" And my grandfather was like "these things happen" while the other adults nodded sagely. So I guess the moral here is that if my conservative christian relatives could accept my uncle as trans in the 1970s then there really isn't any excuse for anyone. And also my family needs to ask more questions because I'm fairly sure my aunt and uncle stole their kids.

thetroublesofbeingtrans:

I’m laughing my ass off at that last sentence- But I’m so glad your coming out went well! That’s one heck of a way to find out you have LGBT relatives.

darthmelyanna:

boyswanna-be-her:

REMINDER TO

Put sunscreen on the fronts and backs of your underarms (u read that right)

Put sunscreen on your EARS, your hair part, and any place on your bald scalp, plus under thin or fair hair

Put spf on your TATTOOS and SCARS every day

Put spf on the tops of your feet if barefoot/wearing sandals

Put sunscreen INSIDE the margins of your clothes. For best protection wearing swimwear, spray yourself naked before putting base layers on (obvs avoiding sensitive areas).

Apply spray spf before you get to the beach/shore/event/whatever. Don’t try to spray it on in a breeze.

REAPPLY often

NOSE is vulnerable bc it sticks out—REAPPLY OFTEN! You can’t overdo it.

You need more sunscreen on your face than you think you do. Just go with me on this one. ½ tsp minimum for your face.

The best sunscreen is the one you’ll wear, so find one that agrees with your skin, doesn’t make your eyes water, and that applies easily for you. There are new dexterity-friendly spray bottles I like a lot from Neutrogena.

If spf turns you chalky, i hear overwhelmingly positive things about the brand Black Girl Sunscreen

Skin cancer is a really stupid thing to have to spend money on, and an even stupider thing to die of. Sunburns are uncomfortable. We’re all getting out again—so don’t forget to slather.

Quick addendum: the Neutrogena spray bottles were recalled in July 2021 because they were found to contain benzene, which can cause cancer. I know they’re really convenient but you really, really, really should not use them until they rectify the problem.

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spiritsflame:

tallahasseemp3:

the kind of gay representation i want from marvel is simple. i want to hear a grindr noise from bucky’s phone while he and sam are staking a place out and sam is like come ON dude

this and the stakeout is in the middle of absolutely nowhere. Bucky pulls out his phone like he’s about to swipe right on Greg-the-Henchman, mostly to fuck with Sam.

Meanwhile, Greg-the-Henchman, showing off this hot match he just made and his buddy Jake-the-Henchman, who is more up to date on the briefings, just “…Is that the winter soldier.’

and there is a single moment. before they both remember that grindr is proximity based. 

“Oh FUCK we gotta GO!” 

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brightlotusmoon:

lover-of-pie:

kolyabean:

grimmtidings:

durbikins:

goattrain:

mintycoolnessisrelevant:

mintycoolnessisrelevant:

mintycoolnessisrelevant:

mintycoolnessisrelevant:

mintycoolnessisrelevant:

do u remember those fuckers those…

those WEEGGh gHOGH stick fuckers

THESE

And theyre called….. oh no-

Hey baby ;)

Wanna touch my Groan Tube

Neon Groantube Evangelion

I can literally feel the walls of reality breaking down around me the longer this video plays.

Do you hear that Fezzik? That is the sound of ultimate suffering. My heart made that sound when the six-fingered man killed my father. The Man in Black makes it now.

I just thought this was a nice quote from the princes bride and then I played the viDEO AND OH GOD

My child self was never sure what to make of that noise.

And I HEARD IT as soon as I saw that first photo.

SKWWWAAAAAAAA

AAAAAAAAA

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once-a-polecat:

closet-keys:

phantomrose96:

Day 286 of quarantine I have discovered www.webstaurantstore.com

It is, I BELIEVE, a website intended to be used by restaurants for bulk ordering food and utensils. And this is bringing me such unbounded delight scrolling through and recognizing that I, a single individual, ALSO can order ridiculous obscene enormous offensive-to-all-common-sensibilities shipments of BULK FOOD, to my LITTLE LITTLE APARTMENT, for PENNIES on the dollar. I have this god given power to flood my entire living space with bulk grains and it is one single button click away from my reality.

30 POUNDS of chocolate for $100. 20 POUNDS of peas for $13?? $13!!!! I will wake up every single morning from now on knowing that a box of donuts and a sack of dried split peas heavy enough to bodily injure someone both carry equal monetary weight. 25 POUNDS OF ONION POWDER for $50. Do you understand the enormity? the accessibility? the potential here? With the single click of the button I can put myself in a position of bequeathing more than a humanly comprehensible amount of onion powder in my will. AND IT WOULD ONLY COST ME $50 TO MAKE THIS A REALITY.

But what gets me

What truly gets me

is the 50 POUND BAG OF RICE 

FOR LESS THAN $20

Do you know how much that kills me? How much I’m losing my mind? that I can order MYSELF WORTH OF RICE for something to the tune of $50? I can OUT-RANK MYSELF WITH RICE, DEMOCRATICALLY OVERRULE MYSELF WITH RICE, IN MY OWN APARTMENT for the fucking PENNIES that is $50

I’m so sorry for the normal person I’ll be after quarantine because the cabin-fever version of me I’m inhabiting right now is perhaps just uninhibited enough to follow through on this dream I’ve just discovered of out-ricing myself.

real talk though, if you had a large number of people in your community who wanted a particular food item and couldn’t afford it (for instance if you’re in a food desert and need produce or if you’re a part of a large disabled and/or overworked community who all need prepared frozen food), you could pool funds and get an order from a supply store like this.

it requires organizing for finance management, ordering, transport, and distribution, but if you build a stable mutual aid network, it’s genuinely within the realm of possibility.

This is why you should give money over food when donating to food banks.

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fandomandsparkles:

supernatural is getting a prequel. good omens season 2 has been confirmed. sherlock season 5 is vaguely confirmed. loki is once again the tumblr sexyman.

this is a shout-out to everyone who wasnt at dashcon. everyone who missed 2012. everyone who only got into supernatural after nov 5th.

everyone who was too late.

don’t you see history repeating itself?

we are the tumblr renaissance. we are the second generation.

and we are here to fuck shit up in our very own version of superhell.

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lafseanchai:

the-tin-dog:

mornington-the-crescent:

birdyyyyyy:

atopcat:

funnytwittertweets:

Lord of the Rings:

Originally posted by marta-bee

Vs.

Game of Thrones:

Originally posted by riderj123

“But where’s that light coming from” BITCH IT’S FANTASY WHO CARES

Ok but also from a like, theatrical storytelling perspective, there’s a thing called “willful suspension of disbelief” which is basically the concept that in order to let ourselves be immersed and enjoy a story, we need to turn off our knowledge that it’s all fake anyway.

like yes, we all *know* it’s unrealistically bright for a night time war, but it needs to be so we can SEE the story being told, and the lighting designer used blue light to show it was night time. We KNOW that Sir Ian isn’t actually a wizard but we SUSPEND that DISBELIEF because we want to be entertained.

In one of the cast and crew commentaries on the LOTR Extended Editions the “where is the light coming from” was brought up in ROTK. I can’t remember who the exchange was between (it’s been years since I experienced the commentaries), but the answer was “the same place as the music”.

The music and the lighting were needed for the story telling and the emotional weight, but there wasn’t an in universe explaination.

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fennby-is-fine-deactivated20210:

Companies guilt tripping us like “recycle your plastic straws” meanwhile our taxes go to pay for this shit

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funnytwittertweets:

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thegalacticbucket:

autisticshonenprotag:

juani-de-molina:

freckledsweetpea:

dongcroncher:

“C'mon Olympians it’s bedtime, time to go to your anti fuck beds!”

wtf is the “weight of one person”?

they’re acting like some of the athletes aren’t 95lbs and others 300lbs+

Yeah, you bring a good point. I know weighlifters and other fat athletes get treated like shit on the daily, but this is excessive

this is completely fake btw. these beds are intended to be recyclable and can hold up to 440lbs/200kg. there are no reputable outlets reporting on this “anti-sex” beds and the only ones that do are citing the tweet above. here’s another article disproving it like yes fat athletes get treated like shit and it’s important we talk about it but this whole anti sex bed thing is 100% untrue lol

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